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The behaviour exhibited on dating apps can be profoundly demoralising, writes social researcher Joanne Orlando — and it creeps into our lives offline. How we communicate on dating apps like Tinder, Bumble and RSVP is important to the relationships we then form, what we accept as suitable behaviour in relationships offline and integral to the discussions we have been having as a nation about consent and respect between women and men. Research from Monash University, funded by dating giant eHarmony, found that dating apps are now the most common method single Australians use to meet each other.
Covid social restrictions has seen this popularity soar. In the first quarter ofTinder reported a whopping 3bn swipes in a single day. What is going under the radar however is the treatment singletons endure as they use these apps. In my research and work with adults, it has become clear to me that offensive language, disrespectful name-calling, ghosting and having others offload their frustrations on you, have all become common place on dating apps.
Sadly, many users have come to expect and even accept such treatment as par of the course when looking for love online. Research consistently shows that the screen mediates our sense of agency. It makes us braver and bolder. Asking someone for a date or a hook-up behind the protection of a screen is less scary than doing so in person. By making someone else feel Online dating frustrating for guys, some app users make themselves feel better. Dig deeper, however, and research shows it is mostly happening to women. A study by Pew Research found that one third of women using dating apps have been called an abusive name, and almost half of women had men continue to pursue them online after they said no.
There are hundreds or thousands more potential matches waiting, ready to be swiped. The problem is this has made toxic behaviour between potential romantic partners more commonplace, and sadly more acceptable. Our bar on these apps is set lower than what we would expect in any other context. She said manners were few and far between. Where we meet and date is not important, but how we communicate with each other is.
But the fact is it does. It carries into our day and eats into other interactions in our life — at work, socially, with the cashier at the local store. It erodes how we think we deserve to be treated and what we teach our children about relationships. The more it happens, the more damage. Do we really want to be in a relationship, or even hook up with someone like that?
The answer is no. This article is more than 1 month old. Sat 19 Jun Apps promised to revolutionize dating.
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