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We're told to be wary of the green-eyed monster. That insidious thing that can creep up out of nowhere and knock you for a six -- at times when you may least expect it. Whether it's your best friend's job promotion or your ex's new fling, it can also confuse the hell out of you. And proceed to do damage. The Huffington Post Australia spoke to behavioural expert Dr John Demartini to put all of your confusion and worries to rest.
And we search for prey and try to avoid predators. That is our basic primary 'reward and punishment' system," Demartini told Huffpost Australia. Jealousy is a biological, built-in system for fear of loss of something that we value. We're talking anything from food and intelligence to ambition, resources or social skills.
And then there are those good ol' relationships. There's a natural yearning there. And so we react. Contrary to popular belief, jealousy is a that you value the relationship or friendship. So whilst it may have dire consequences, it is rooted in a desire to protect what is important to you. Whilst they're often bundled together, jealousy and envy are different emotions -- although they sometimes overlap.
You may be envious of someone who you think is more attractive than you but not jealous because your partner isn't showing any of threat," Demartini said. Jealousy can be self-deprecating disaster waiting to happen -- or we can choose to use it wisely. I spoke with a woman who was very angry and resentful as a consequence of her jealousy towards another woman who was trying to win over partner.
I asked her what specifically this other woman demonstrated as a power that she didn't think she had. She said it was her youth. So I asked her what it is that she had as an advantage with her age.
Think of envy as the gap between what you have and what another person has. You can be envious of a job position and jealous of someone who grabs it.
Portra via Getty Images. According to Demartini, insecurity exists only as a fear of losing something that we don't have. This article exists as part of the online archive for HuffPost Australia. Certain site features have been disabled.
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